Monday, February 16, 2009

Why Can't We All Just Get Along?!

I have just had a very uncomfortable experience with a very angry person. Ugh. Is it just me, or is it extremely unnerving to attempt to soothe a savage beast?

Keeping my calm in the face of anger is my forte. As I may have mentioned, I grew up in a loving, but emotionally, and sometimes physically, volatile home. At age five I knew to keep my mouth shut and listen, or it would just be worse. I am completely capable of listening and remaining objective...if it's not personal.

This was personal. I managed to keep cool, but it was so hard. SO. HARD.

Even when I disagree with someone I can always see at least part of their argument. See and understand. Biting my tongue is easy. Loving in spite of disagreement is easy. Being called a HYPOCRITE because I can see and understand where someone is coming from, but still not agree?! Not so easy.

The conversation ended like this:

ME: You know I love you and I understand where you're coming from. We might just have to agree to disagree here.

THEM: Well...*huff* I love you too(undertone of I want to strip you of your ability to think for yourself and make you my mini me).

I'd call that a success, were it not for the heavy heart I now carry. I hate when I can't soothe someone by just listening...when they aren't satisfied until you give up your belief and adopt theirs. Not. Going. To. Happen.

Deep healing breaths.

8 comments:

  1. Agreeing to disagree. The story of my life. I'm glad you were able to keep your cool. Good for you!

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  2. I know the feeling...trust me...but then again, you know that.

    Next year, you should come with us for the new tradition - we may have to do it a day late or something

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  3. quarter-life lady: It's a battle isn't it? Thanks. I just wish I felt like I'd accomplished something.

    Ari- I think you know all too well, love. And I am SO THERE next year. ^__^

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  4. That's the worst. I hate it when people can't listen back or accept that people have different beliefs.

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  5. I hear you on this. Many similar sounding problems to that in my life.

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  6. Just be glad you handled it well and didn't say anything you'd regret. We've all done that before and it's just no good.

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  7. Meg- It's almost maddening. Two way street people!

    Stephanie- May the force be with you. It's unbelievably frustrating.

    Apollo- That's true. I've been there, and that felt MUCH worse. Thanks!

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  8. I hate that feeling...frustration and hurt.

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